Self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves. It is based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves, which can sometimes feel difficult to change. Low self-esteem can negatively impact your life, including your relationships, your job and your health.
Tips for building and maintaining positive self-esteem
Avoid comparing yourself with others
Try stop focusing on what others have and refocus on what YOU already have and embrace it. Remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side, it how we imagine it is without facts
Challenge your negative thinking
Test the accuracy of your thoughts by asking yourself whether your view is consistent with facts and logic or other explanations for the situation could be plausible too. It can be hard to recognize errors in thinking, Long-held thoughts and beliefs can feel normal and accurate, even though many are just opinions or perceptions. Also pay attention to your thought patterns.
You see things as either good or bad. For example, "If I don't pass the exam, I am a failure."
You notice only negatives and focus on them, distorting your view of a person or situation. For example, "I made a mistake at work and now everyone will think I am good at my job."
Jumping to negative conclusions
You reach a negative conclusion with little or no evidence to support it. For example, "My friend hasn't replied to my text, so I must have done something bad."
Mistaking feelings for facts
You confuse feelings or beliefs with facts. For example, "I feel like a loose, so I must be a looser."
You undervalue yourself by putting yourself down. For example, "I don't deserve anything good in my life."
Focus on your strengths
Create a list of your strengths and areas for improvement you can work on, bring to the surface all of the positive qualities about yourself, while identifying areas you can work on. Pay attention of the language you are using when identifying areas of improvement. Maybe you would like to improve your physical appearance, saying “I’m fat,” creates a negative tone. Use instead, ‘I will visit the gym twice a week.’
Don’t give up! Turn your fears or reservations into motivation and remember you are putting lot of effort for an important cause.
Change takes time and is not something that happens overnight. You are working to be the best version of yourself and the person who recognise the best version is YOU. Bear in mind that everyone makes mistakes. If you experience a set-back don’t beat yourself up about it, learn from it and move forward.
Surround yourself with supportive people around
The people who love and care about you will be your biggest support system in your journey of building your self-worth. Surround yourself with people who uplift and encourages you and make you feel positive about reaching your goals.
Do what you love
When we are doing something we enjoy, our brains naturally release endorphins that make us happy. Hit the gym, read a book, bake for friends, take a bath; try to do things that make you feel happy.
Live in the present moment
Worrying about the future will cause you more stress. If you focus on the here and now you can prepare for any challenges that comes your way.
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